Different kinds of loss
There are many different losses that we can experience. If fact, there are over 40 different types of losses. The Grief Recovery Method® can help with any and all of these losses, and others that are not listed.
Some examples of loss include:
Some examples of loss include:
- death of a person
- death of a pet
- separation or divorce
- miscarriage
- adoption
- job loss or retirement
- chronic illness or acute injury
- end of a friendship
- end of a relationship
- loss of a prized possession
- natural disaster
- changing schools
- moving
- graduation
- "empty nest"
- legal or financial problems
- loss of trust
- loss of safety
- loss of control
- and many more...
How do we recovery from grief?
We recovery from grief with our hearts, not our heads. When we intellectualize grief, which our society has taught us to do from a very early age, we very often struggle to heal our hearts. It is like trying to cut your lawn with nail clippers...that just isn't the right tool for the job. Your head will not heal your grief, your heart will.
Recovery from loss is achieved by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever. Those small and correct choices are the foundation of the Grief Recovery Method®. It is how the program is designed...and it works.
If you are ready, you can start making those small and correct choices today! It is never too early and it is never too late to begin your recovery from your grief and pain.
Recovery from loss is achieved by a series of small and correct choices made by the griever. Those small and correct choices are the foundation of the Grief Recovery Method®. It is how the program is designed...and it works.
If you are ready, you can start making those small and correct choices today! It is never too early and it is never too late to begin your recovery from your grief and pain.
Myths & Misinformation
Most people who try to comfort us when we are grieving have the very best of intentions. They love us and truly desire to help and support us as we grieve.
Unfortunately, most of us have grown up understanding many myths and misinformation related to grief and loss. We work hard to think and intellectualize our way out of our pain and sadness. We feel incredibly vulnerable and broken, perhaps more than we ever have in our lives, and we struggle to let that vulnerability show to ourselves and others. We can sometimes act as if there is some kind of Academy Award for how quickly and well we recover from our grief. As if there is some shiny trophy for how strong you can be through your loss and pain.
Has anyone every said something like the following to you in an effort to help you with your loss and your grief?
"Don't feel bad, it could have been worse."
"He is better off where he is now. Be glad he didn't suffer."
"There are plenty of fish in the sea."
"You can have more children."
"Let's go out and get you a new pet next week."
"She wasn't good enough for you anyway."
"Look how much freedom you have now. You can do anything you want now that you're not tied down."
"You'll be okay, it just takes time."
"I know how you feel. When that happened to me I..."
"You're so lucky! I wish I didn't have to go to work every day anymore."
"It's not like your dog was a person."
"You just need to get out and keep busy."
"You have so many other friends, don't let the loss of this friend bother you."
"Shouldn't you be over this by now?"
"You need to be strong for your..."
"You can get a new job. There are so many jobs out there."
"You can rebuild that house with the insurance money. It will be bigger and better than it was before the fire."
What if someone simply said, "I can't imagine how this has hurt your heart. I don't know how you feel. I am here for you and I will listen to you. Tell me about it."
What if someone said this, just listened to you, and then helped to guide you through small and powerful actions that helped you to heal your broken heart?
When you are ready, I can help.
Unfortunately, most of us have grown up understanding many myths and misinformation related to grief and loss. We work hard to think and intellectualize our way out of our pain and sadness. We feel incredibly vulnerable and broken, perhaps more than we ever have in our lives, and we struggle to let that vulnerability show to ourselves and others. We can sometimes act as if there is some kind of Academy Award for how quickly and well we recover from our grief. As if there is some shiny trophy for how strong you can be through your loss and pain.
Has anyone every said something like the following to you in an effort to help you with your loss and your grief?
"Don't feel bad, it could have been worse."
"He is better off where he is now. Be glad he didn't suffer."
"There are plenty of fish in the sea."
"You can have more children."
"Let's go out and get you a new pet next week."
"She wasn't good enough for you anyway."
"Look how much freedom you have now. You can do anything you want now that you're not tied down."
"You'll be okay, it just takes time."
"I know how you feel. When that happened to me I..."
"You're so lucky! I wish I didn't have to go to work every day anymore."
"It's not like your dog was a person."
"You just need to get out and keep busy."
"You have so many other friends, don't let the loss of this friend bother you."
"Shouldn't you be over this by now?"
"You need to be strong for your..."
"You can get a new job. There are so many jobs out there."
"You can rebuild that house with the insurance money. It will be bigger and better than it was before the fire."
What if someone simply said, "I can't imagine how this has hurt your heart. I don't know how you feel. I am here for you and I will listen to you. Tell me about it."
What if someone said this, just listened to you, and then helped to guide you through small and powerful actions that helped you to heal your broken heart?
When you are ready, I can help.
The Grief Recovery Method ®
John W. James and Russell Friedman are the authors of The Grief Recovery Handbook®. Their work in the field of grief recovery has been ongoing for over 35 years. Both John and Russell experienced losses in their lives and realized that they were ill-equipped to deal with the grief they experienced as a result of their losses. Out of their pain, experience, and desire to help others, the Grief Recovery Method® was born.
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To learn more about the Grief Recovery Handbook®, my training as Certified Grief Recovery Method Specialist®, and further information related to grief and loss, please visit https://www.griefrecoverymethod.com/.